Soon turning 17 girl.
So for all my life I’ve been struggling with caring about people. Anbd when I started to interect with boys I noticed a problem. I do tend to develop a crush or sympathy for a long period of time, but when I get the person I get bored easily and lose all my feelings. Once it was because I had high expectations and feel for the image of the person from my head, not him actually. But now I am with a guy for only a moth. I crushed on him for year. Unlucky, he is in my class. I warned him at the beggining that I get over very quick but he accepted it anyway. So now I realised I don’t want this relationship anymore because I don’t want neither a close future with him. I feel like he has nothing to offer me, our conversations are just about things I have to say and we have short hang out that bore me much. But he already got attached and invested emotionally into me. I don’t mind continuing seeing him, but I don’t want a future with the guy. Also, I have issues and coped with depression for a long time, and whgen I started seeing him I got out but now i feel mentaly unstable again I think this also affects my perception on our relationship. Anyway, I don’t know what should I do? What should I tell him? How to continue this thing? Any help?
I think the kindest thing you can do is to end it now if you know there is no future with him. He’s going to hurt either way, but he will hurt more if he has invested a lot more time into the relationship. Better to end it now rather than hurting him even more in the future. I would just say it as kindly as I can and say I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you. Unfortunately there is no easy way to do this.