I really hate myslef. And I constantly feel shitty about myself, I always compare myself to my bf and im just so lame and pathetic. How do I stop the self hate and stop comparing myself to others? Why do I do this? I am tired of feeling this way.
I think it is natural to compare ourselves to others to a degree. It can become problematic though when we obsess or compare too often. Try to look at the good aspects you do have in your own life, no matter how small they might be.
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One thing to keep in mind is that depression is a real medical illness that makes us sometimes have a harder time keeping up with our day-to-day life than it is for someone else. If we had some other illness we’d probably go easier on ourselves, right? After all, there’d be a visible reason that we aren’t always feeling well or that we’re tired. It’s not different with depression though just because it’s invisible to the people around us. That’s why we have to learn to be kinder and more forgiving with ourselves. If we aren’t doing as well as they are it’s only because we have bigger obstacles to overcome than they do. It’s just not an apples to apples comparison to compare yourself with someone who does not suffer from depression, right? And it doesn’t make you weak or not good enough that you are dealing with this illness. You’ve actually had to work very hard and be very strong to get this far.