How to get over others being successful because they're not depressed and being treated like you're just lazy?

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genericusername asked 2 years ago

I just hate it. I study and I can work my ass off entire day but don’t achieve anything meaningful because 99% of this time is spent on re-reading what I read because I’m forgetting the sentence’s beginning when when I finish reading it, and then comprehending it is another story. People who say that I just don’t try hard enough and that I’m in the same conditions with everyone else must assume that everyone else has some time machine that extends their days into months. It’s very exhausting and it’s impossible   to show up to school looking like they do after a day like this. Most of them don’t even care about studying and don’t find it interesting yet they manage to get good grades. And they and teachers treat me like I’m some lazy piece of shit who doesn’t lift a finger. Everyone’s finished almost all their exams and enjoy their “earned” rest while I enjoy my “earned” still going to school every day.

3 Answers
AmyF69HOST answered 2 years ago

Hi there, 
I am also a student struggling with depression so I can relate a lot to ypur frustrations. I hated when people who studied less did better than me.  How come? How is it i can put in hours and hours- literally get nothing done?!
All I learned was to eventually accept I was doing the best I can for where I was at and no one else understood/knew what I was going thro, so why should I judge myself?  They may judge me but they don’t know or understand! I do know… Even if I dont fully understand myself. 
Once I gave myself some room- permission to not be perfect,  not as much pressure was on me… I started automatically doing better…not great, but better..I’m still passing at least.
All you can do is the same… Your best for where your at! Good luck! In the end,  whatever is going to happen…will. 
Hope you join our chat sometime and we can talk!
Thanks for sharing with us!
AmyF69Host

AmyF69HOST answered 2 years ago

Hi there, 
I am also a student struggling with depression so I can relate a lot to ypur frustrations. I hated when people who studied less did better than me.  How come? How is it i can put in hours and hours- literally get nothing done?!
All I learned was to eventually accept I was doing the best I can for where I was at and no one else understood/knew what I was going thro, so why should I judge myself?  They may judge me but they don’t know or understand! I do know… Even if I dont fully understand myself. 
Once I gave myself some room- permission to not be perfect,  not as much pressure was on me… I started automatically doing better…not great, but better..I’m still passing at least.
All you can do is the same… Your best for where your at! Good luck! In the end,  whatever is going to happen…will. 
Hope you join our chat sometime and we can talk!
Thanks for sharing with us!
AmyF69Host

NeverlandHOST answered 2 years ago

Hello! I’m currently a student and when I was/am suffering through depression this was/is a feeling I regularly felt/feel. The thing is a lot of my friends that I studied with would go in the next day and act like they barely studied for an exam. Why? So they would have a backup excuse when they didn’t do too well. That might be the case for you but if it isn’t, why are you worrying about what other people are doing? Forget about them and forget what anyone else says to you. If you study too much or do too well they’ll find other ways to criticize you too. Secondly, before you can do well in school you need to take care of yourself mentally. Those thoughts that you’re stressing over need to come out. You see, when your brain focuses on a stressor too much and you find yourself going back to that stressful thought over and over you are making yourself exhausted. Some way, some how you gotta let those feelings and thoughts out so they’re not swimming in your head all the time. Personally, I recommend journaling for about 30 minutes at the end of the day to put every negative or positive feeling no matter how small or large onto the page so you can free your mind for other tasks like studying. Thirdly, you need to give yourself a break. If you go into studying with the mindset that you have to get an A on an exam or you can’t take a break for 5 hours then you will wear yourself out. Study because you want to retain the material and because it’s just fun to learn new things. Finally, I am a student so I can offer some advice with studying specifically. You might want to consider trying different studying techniques. Personally, I spent my summers “experimenting” different ways to study by taking free online courses (MIT and Yale are good places to look for free and interesting lectures or Khan academy). Find what makes you interested in studying and what works for you. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone or to put in some extra work. My favorite way to study is to make colorful study guides with pictures and graphics. Quizlet is a good tool for studying vocabulary and diagrams. What has never failed me is doing textbook problems to reassure myself. Confidence can really make or break a grade because when we’re in a high stress situation our body cannot make the best decisions and our judgement may be clouded. It isn’t easy to take an exam if your judgement is clouded so do whatever you can to put your mind at ease and make sure to take a moment to look at all the things you did to prepare for the exam to reassure yourself that you’re ready. If you did practice problems make sure to have all the work on paper, if you did study guides make sure to have those with you, etc. Looking at those can help you feel like you really put in the effort. And if you don’t make the grade you wanted, just remember that your grade is not a testament to your knowledge. We all have our off days. However, you choose to look at your exam (negative or positive light) remember: whether or not the glass is half full or empty it is always refillable. Exams and projects and grades will not make or break you. If you’re applying to somewhere and the grades do matter? Make sure you let the admissions know what was going on! They are people too and they will understand. Make sure to love yourself to encourage yourself to succeed and to look for help when you are unsure how to do better! You got this and it’s promising to see you’re motivated to do well and you’re looking for help! Good luck with your endeavors and school!